This is going to be a long write up but I need help from a matured outsider.
Today is Friday and I’m off work today. I wanted to spend time with my wife and daughter. I married my wife 3 years ago and we have been dating since 2008. We have a beautiful daughter who is 3 years old. I used to think I have it all. A young man who is 25 with a house of his own in Lekki. Two cars one for me and one for her. What else could a woman want!
She used to be my motivation to work hard. I wanted her to have it all. When I held my daughter in 2015. OMG!! It was the happiest day of my life. I said to myself life can’t be better than what I’m currently experiencing.
I have found my wife texting dudes and trust me she is a very smart woman. Stay at home mum, so she can always be there for our daughters needs. My wife and I had this issue with a pharmacist in our estate a couple of months ago. They were always texting. Remember I said she was smart. They chat on whatsapp and she always deleted their chat. I couldn’t get anything but I knew something was off. I logged on to her whatsapp on my laptop so I could see the chats before they get deleted. She called him pet names and I was so mad. This guy looks at me in the eye whenever I go get prescriptions for my wife, daughter and I.
I told her what I did to her whatsapp and I was impatient. I let the cat out of the bag before I could get anything. She denied ever having an affair and she was mad at me. I apologized. We went for a family vacation in Paris. It was my way of apologizing to her.
Fast forward to today. This unfortunate morning! I told her I would love us to go on a date tonight and she agreed. She is a serving corper. She told me she had an issue with her file and she wanted to sort it out. I knew something was off. I had her iPhone set up on my computer so I could know where exactly she would be.
The tracker on her phone stopped and the location was a nearby hotel just outside the estate. My head was spinning and I was thinking in my head. Do I really want to do this. Do I want to catch her in the act. It’s going to change everything I thought.
I waited from 10am at the hotel, she left home by 9AM and I waited at the reception. I texted her where she was and if they are attending to her. She replied told me everything is being sorted. Not knowing I was waiting downstairs while she was having sex with another man. The receptionist didn’t want me just sitting at their waiting room and asked me to leave. I told her I was waiting for someone and I paid for a room. I told her I’m waiting for some colleagues and I will only leave the waiting room when my guest arrives. She accepted. I have already paid *smiles*
She texted me by 12 that she was on her way home and I replied Ok. She met me at the hall. I looked at my wife and she saw me waiting. I didn’t create a scene. I just wanted her to know that I saw her. I drove home and she called me crying if she could come home I told her why not.
She sat across me and I was tough on her. I told her to tell me the truth or else she would see the beast in me. She confessed they have been meeting for a month now and had sex twice at the hotel. My heartbeat dropped. I thought I was having a heart attack. What else could I have done differently I asked myself. Where did I go wrong?
I don’t know what to do. I know for a fact I can never be married to her. This marriage is over. We have been together for since 2008 and I’m just finding out now. My daughter will be a result of separated parents. My worst nightmare.
When you catch someone cheating or telling lies. They don’t change they only become smarter at getting caught. I don’t think I can ever forgive her. She has to go. I need help!! I can’t tell my parent. My mom loves her and they talk more than we do. I can’t tell her parents they treat me like their child. Please help!! Matured minds only!!
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